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Challenging times can make it difficult to make clear decisions, especially when emotions are running high. My goal is to support you as you navigate the various stages, concerns, and complexities of separation or divorce. I invite you to explore the range of services I offer to see what might best support you.
My role is to support individuals as they navigate the emotional and practical challenges of divorce. I aim to provide clarity, structure, and a steady presence during what may be a highly stressful time. This includes helping clients manage overwhelm, self-care, communications, clarity in decisions, or to begin shaping a plan for life after divorce. I assist with parenting plan discussions and co-parenting strategies—always with the goal of reducing conflict and keeping a child-centered focus. Through our work, I help you by identifying blind spots and exploring new perspectives that can shift your mindset in a positive, empowering direction. My role is not to give you answers or sway your decisions, but to guide and support you during this time.
Whether you are making the difficult decision to separate, are at the beginning of the divorce process, in the thick of settlements, or navigating post-divorce transition matters, any stage is the right time to see a divorce coach. If you are feeling overwhelmed by emotion or process and would benefit from assisted targeted guidance, then that time is right for you. Ideally, it may serve you well to see a divorce coach at the start of matters to assist with gaining clarity in your important decisions moving forward.
That’s another important time to consider working with a divorce coach. If you’re feeling “on the fence” or stuck in the decision-making process, it can be incredibly helpful to talk through your story, explore your options, and consider what it might look like to either stay in the relationship or move toward separation. It’s a pivotal decision—one that deserves thoughtful exploration in a supportive space.
The first step is to request a phone or Zoom call so we can meet. During this introductory chat, we’ll get to know each other, and if you feel comfortable and believe I’m a good fit for your needs, we can move forward from there. This initial meet-and-greet typically lasts between 10 to 30 minutes, depending on your questions and how I can best support you.
After our conversation, I’ll send you an engagement letter outlining coaching options and rates for you to consider. Once you return the signed letter indicating you’d like to work together, we can schedule one or multiple sessions in advance—whatever suits your needs.
What matters most is what’s important to you. Your priorities may remain consistent or shift over time, and that’s completely natural. If we’re working together over multiple sessions, I will regularly check in on your priorities to ensure our conversations move at a pace that suits your needs. Discussions typically have a natural flow progressing off the last session and it is helpful to know what our next discussion will mainly focus on—this allows us both to come prepared and helps me tailor the information and support I provide. Of course, life can bring unexpected changes between sessions, and we’ll always remain flexible to address whatever comes up. After each session, you’ll receive an emailed summary of our discussion, which may include key points, action steps, and relevant resources for your ongoing support.
Co-parenting information sessions offer guidance tailored to your child’s developmental stage, along with practical tips and strategies you can apply individually or in collaboration with your co-parent.
Absolutely. There are many concerns, strategies, and topics that can be explored individually. While we can’t control another person’s actions, we can focus on what is within your control—developing approaches that support smoother communication, reduce conflict, and keep the child’s well-being at the center. These conversations can empower you to navigate co-parenting with greater clarity and confidence.
A parenting plan can provide clear, structured plans between separated or divorced parents about how they will raise their children. It helps reduce confusion, prevent conflict, and ensure that both parents are on the same page regarding key aspects of their children’s lives. By setting expectations in advance, it promotes stability for the children and smoother co-parenting for the adults.
Co-parenting information and/or parenting planning discussion session can be held individually or as a couple.
Seeing a divorce coach before consulting a lawyer can offer significant benefits—both financially and emotionally. One major advantage is preparation. By working with a coach first, you’ll know what documents to bring, what financial information may be required, and which key questions you may want to consider based on your unique situation. Coaching gives you the space to step back from the emotions of divorce, gain clarity, and approach your legal appointment with a more focused mindset.
Another valuable benefit is potential cost savings. As a lawyer’s hourly rates may be higher than the coaches, working with a divorce coach first can help you make the most of your time—and budget. By using coaching to work through the foundational aspects of your divorce, you can present your lawyer with a clearer starting point. This allows your legal discussions to be more efficient, potentially reducing both the time and cost involved.
A well-prepared client with clarity and awareness of their needs enables the lawyer to focus on providing targeted legal advice. It is an approach to the legal process with an advantage of preparation, emotional readiness, and financial efficiency.
No-I am not able to provide legal advice. I can, however, recommend referrals for your unique circumstances to various legal professionals.
The purpose of discussions regarding parenting planning or financial disclosure is to help you feel empowered, prepared, and organized when you see your lawyer for legal advice, review, and formalization of documents. Through our discussions, you will have the framework that represents your decisions to take forward to your lawyer to discuss further. I’m happy to refer you to trusted professionals for these services.
As a divorce coach, I aim to assist people to focus on personal growth, view perspectives and reflect where your energy and impact may serve you best. Individuals benefiting from coaching services are generally seeking improvement or direction through various transitions. Coaching is action and future oriented steeped in accountability, self-awareness, and a desire to connect with a forward momentum. In contrast, a therapist is trained to address mental health concerns, emotional difficulties, or past trauma. Among other things, therapy may focus on healing and resolving deeper issues.
If you are experiencing financial hardship, please feel free to reach out to me to discuss your circumstances. I understand that it takes courage to be vulnerable and share private matters, and I am committed to supporting you without judgment.
Sessions take place via telephone or over zoom in the comfort of your own surroundings.
Yes, I’ve been contacted outside of sessions for matters such as clients seeking words of encouragement or experiencing stress or nerves before entering negotiations, legal proceedings, or other important matters, graciously sharing updates with me on successful events or positive progress, or briefly discussing feelings of immediate overwhelm that don’t require a session.
Definitely not. Through our discussions, one of my roles is to empower you to come to your own conclusions. You know yourself best and are the architect of your life. Every individual and couple face unique circumstances, each with their own values and thresholds within a marriage. If, through coaching, a shift occurs and someone feels motivated to continue working on their relationship, I am happy to refer them to services such as couples counseling or other family-focused resources that may support a successful and healthy reconciliation.
Yes, we can absolutely work together if you’re not married. I support people navigating relationship endings — whether it was a long-term relationship or a breakup you are struggling with, your experience is valid, and you’re welcome here.
In British Columbia, a licensed divorce coach is a regulated mental health professional—such as a Registered Clinical Counsellor, Registered Social Worker, or Psychologist. They are qualified to provide therapy and are trained in mental health, family systems and resolution. These professionals have completed additional training which enabels them to team with legal, financial, or other experts as part of the legal collaborative divorce process.
A certified divorce coach has completed private, specialized training in divorce coaching and is not licensed and regulated by, for example, a provincial health college/authority. Their support is non-clinical. They help clients navigate matters such as decision-making, emotional guidance, organization and support them to move forward through separation and divorce. Certified divorce coaches do not provide therapy and are not part of a legal collaborative team unless they also hold a professional license.
